The Weakest Link?

The other day, my nanny said to me that Baby R is already treating/reacting to us all slightly differently. For example, she said, Baby R knows she can get away with more with me as compared to Mr. R!  me!!!! The weakest link? How did that happen? I thought you cannot spoil a baby!  It's true, I have become a big softie and push-over. But does my baby know that already? All kidding aside, this innocuous remark had me thinking more and more recently about what kind of parent I want to be.  I want her to grow up independent. That's going to be hard when all I want to do is be by her side.  Sigh, see, push-over.